Relationships are complex organisms, so it’s difficult to define the overall dos and don’ts. However, some behaviors cross the line no matter what. If your partner’s engaging in any of the following, it may be time for you to think carefully about where your relationship is headed and whether you’re getting the treatment you deserve.
1. Monitoring Her Activities
Just because you’re dating somebody, doesn’t mean they need to know where you are or what you’re doing 24/7. They should respect your need to be by yourself and maintain a certain level of privacy when you’re already sharing so much of who are you with them.
Someone who claims to care about you has zero right or reason to put you down. It may not seem like a big deal that he said you sounded stupid asking his friend some question, but how would you feel if your friend chastised you for the same thing? Chances are, you probably wouldn’t put up with it.
3. Citing Significant Inequalities
If your partner has a more respected job, is wealthier, or comes from a higher socio-economic background, make sure he or she never throws these facts in your face or attempts to use them against you.
4. Control Over Finances
Your partner handling the bank account and providing you with an “allowance” harkens back to high school when your parents were in charge of your life. Your partner is not (and should by no means act like) your parent.
5. Any Kind Of Physical Force
This one should go without saying, but it’s important to remind that there’s no such thing as a “justified kick.”
6. Imbalance Of Power
If you find that one of you is making all of your decisions, from ones as big as when you decide to have kids to small ones like whose apartment you’re staying at that night, you should point that out and make a change, whether it’s in your behavior or your partner’s.
Obviously, threatening your partner, even in jest, constitutes forbidden relationship territory. If your partner is threatening to leave you for no reason other than to control your behaviors, make the smart decision and get away from him or her first.